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Tip #2 of Seven Tips for Getting Along Better with Your Kids

We are publishing this article on this blog as a series. We won't necessarily cover all the tips sequentially, but you will be able to separate out all of them by clicking on the "7 Tips" Series link under Categories. Although these tips are part of my book, If My Kid's So Nice, Why's He Driving ME Crazy?, they really are applicable to ALL young people, not just difficult ones.

Tip #2: Empower the Youngster with Choices

Whenever possible, allow the youngster to exercise skills of decision-making by offering choices. This is especially helpful with the child who has difficulty completing tasks, as the child is more apt to initiate and complete what she has selected. As a suggestion, give her five cards, each of which has an assigned task written on it. Tell the child that, if she begins the tasks within ten minutes (show her the clock) and completes them, only three of the five tasks need to be done; two cards can be returned. (This is a great strategy if you only wanted them to do three of the tasks in the first place!) This approach not only eliminates a number of hassles, it is usually perceived by the child as being a fair and reasonable gesture.

James D. Sutton, Psychologist

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June 22, 2006 - Posted by | Difficult Child, Parents

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