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Gratitude: One Cure for a Wrong Turn

 Folks in emotional distress turn inward. Everything is about THEM. As bad as it sounds, the inward turn starts off as a survival mechanism, a call to arms. But it’s too easy to get stuck there.

It’s NOT a good place to be for a long period of time. Things sour there and become like quicksand, pulling a person down until they can’t get away.

The good news is that, for children and adults, our bodies and minds typically KNOW when enough is enough. Ever remember being sick and tired of being sick and tired? That’s the turn back outward.

Few things can turn us outward and cause us to step off the stage of our lives and stop being the producer, director and star of our own pitiful movie (that only ONE person wants to see) than the ability to recognize others … especially others to whom we are grateful.

It changes EVERYTHING.

I had the opportunity a number of years ago to interview Zig Ziglar in his Dallas office. (That interview became an audiocassette program, The Power of Gratitude.) Zig maintains his “Wall of Gratitude” right outside his office for all to see. It starts with his mother and includes his wife, Jean, and all sorts of individuals who have had a part in making his life much, much richer and fuller than he could have ever imagined. 

Gratitude is always about someone else … not us. That’s the magic. Recognizing others ALWAYS helps us. We might not have walls in our homes honoring folks who have been there for us along the way, but we KNOW who they are. And we never forget them and their precious impact. 

Melody Beattie said it perfectly:

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

I can’t think of any way to improve on that. A good parent, teacher, therapist or friend can help show the way. 

James Sutton, Psychologist



May 14, 2007 - Posted by | Counselors, Difficult Child, Educators, family, Inspirational, Parents, Self-esteem


  1. What a lovely idea … a wall of gratitude!!!

    Color me inspired!!

    Mama Kelly


    Comment by The 2 Witches | May 14, 2007 | Reply

  2. I agree, gratitude is one of the cornerstones of a healthy life! Great article.


    Comment by tobeme | May 16, 2007 | Reply

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